I wrote this blog to myself after receiving a disappointing email. I let it all out, raw, and then tucked it away to polish it later for publishing. Once I looked at it, I decided it was more honest to share it as is, and so here it is for you, unvarnished.
Even I sometimes lose a round and doubt myself. Sometimes I need to shut down, shut people out, get quiet and get some rest. I am always able to gather myself back together and muster the energy required to get up and do it again. Hopefully, this blog has caught you at the right time. DMW.
You will be tested. This I can assure you.
You will feel doubt and you will lose your confidence, your footing and your certainty.
People will drag you down, waste your time, evaluate you, consider you and decide against you when they shouldn’t.
They will not return your calls or your emails, to the point of being completely ridiculous, never mind unprofessional.
You will explain something, clarify it, and demonstrate it, and they will pick the other option anyway.
You will have to wait.
You will have to wait after you are told you won’t have to wait any longer.
You will see a lot of opportunity for yourself, where you would be the perfect fit, but they won’t see it that way despite the evidence.
You will rise above it, the anger or resentment or desperation, only to get dragged back down into the muck of your former resentment.
You will want to stand up and scream that everyone is wrong, and you’ll probably be right.
Take a deep breath.
Here is some more truth.
Strategy and execution, while critical, have never been enough to win a battle.
Persistence wins battles.
Wars are won through attrition, by gradually wearing your enemy down, an inch an hour, two feet a day.
You need grit. You need will and determination, and grace too.
You don’t lose by getting knocked out. You lose by getting worn down.